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Teen Tales: The Rube Goldberg Machine

06.10.2013 by J. Doe // Leave a Comment

The Child has a big project at school: Build a Rube Goldberg machine. It’s for her science class, and the teacher sends out an email to all the parents, asking us to please give up a room or some space in the garage for this project for a while. It’s a large part of the final grade for the class. Do not let your student wait until the last minute, she says. Also, the only thing mom or dad can help with is the final video, and use of any power tools that might be used in the construction.

Basically, I have to: 1) give up my garage – which is hardly a problem since the remote remains nonfunctional – and 2) not help The Child unless power tools are involved – which is also not a problem, since she will rarely consent to help from Mom, and although we own a couple of power tools, whether or not they are functional is an iffy proposition. They were, after all, previously under the care of The Departed.

She has big ideas, and starts constructing things in the garage. Boxes are moved, things are suspended with twine from the ceiling, long-forgotten k’nex come out of the attic. It seems like there is quite a bit of fun going on out there, or at least it seems like fun to me, whose childhood construction efforts began and ended with living room blanket forts.

She doesn’t seem to think so, and frequently scowls as she comes out of the garage.

I visit every so often to check on progress or suggest items she might use, but my involvement mostly consists of helping her find time to work on this, or reminding her what the schedule is, or, on one occasion, hosing a can of red latex paint off the driveway, where it accidentally spilled after proving unsuitably heavy for its assigned task. She was surprised I wasn’t angry about the paint; I was surprised she managed to spill an entire half gallon of paint and not hit anything I cared about.

On the same evening as the red paint incident, I was out to dinner, I received a text message: I FINISHED!!! It was accompanied by a video that I could not watch in the middle of the restaurant I was in – but I congratulated her and said, I can’t wait to see it when I’m home.

What she had done was rig up a simple pulley system to tip a pitcher that filled a water cup. It worked, although it struck me as a bit simple to be called a Rube Goldberg. I asked about this and was told, It can be any length. I took her word for this until another parent I know posted their child’s video up on Facebook: a lovely gadget with numerous steps involving tinkertoys, semi-professional video titles, and an audience of webkinz. The Child has worked for two weeks, nonstop, and her project looks nothing like this elegant contraption.

I panic a bit.

I question her about the project guidelines, and am told that she followed the instructions, and it can be any length – but it seems to me there must be some guiding principles to the thing that will determine a grade. She insists she got no such thing, and after much discussion and no real information, I leave having only managed to persuade her that maybe she should clean up the area around her project before making her video presentation.

She does this, then reluctantly agrees to add another step to her Rube Goldberg, just to get me off her back. After another couple of nights in the garage, she has rigged up a row of books that will topple like dominoes after being hit by a garden shovel on yet another pulley, set in motion by more book dominoes. This seems more like it – and after much more discussion on the topic, she finally locates the original project outline from the teacher. She’s astonished to discover that that her original finished project would have earned her a failing grade for two weeks’ effort, and very pleased that the current version appears to be a passing grade.

Mom gets off her back and helps her make a video, which she emails it to her teacher. After several days, all the students’ project videos are shown in class. I ask how it went.

I did a lot more than other people, she says.

But did they like it? I inquire.

Yes, it was great, but I did a lot more than other people.

She’s quite angry about this point. I ask her to describe the other projects, and she describes a couple that are very fancy – like the tinkertoy one, and another apparently involving a trebuchet built from scratch – but most of them were just a few seconds long. Nothing like what she did. Nothing like the effort she put in.

I point out that she will probably get a better grade for her project, and she gets madder still. You just don’t understand, she tells me. Never mind.

I don’t. I want her to do the work I know she is capable of, and I want her to be proud of her efforts and be proud of the good grades that come from those efforts. Instead, she’s done a much better project than many classmates apparently did, yet she’s angry about it for reasons she can’t explain.

Not to me.

Still, the following evening, I hear noises from the garage, and discover that all the kids from our street are there, helping her set up her Rube Goldberg machine so they can watch it go – again.

Categories // All By Myself, Teen Tales Tags // single parenting

Teen Tales: Happy Birthday, Child. Let’s Polka!

05.28.2013 by J. Doe // 2 Comments

The Child has a birthday, and it’s an important one: she’s an official teenager, 13. She wants teenage things for her birthday, things that signify increased age and independence. An iPhone. A debit card.

We don’t have time to throw an actual party, but I want to mark the occasion, so after school on her birthday, we drive to Wal-Mart, where my father has wired her quite a bit of cash. She’s immensely pleased by this, but even more so when I drive her and her cash to the bank, where she has an appointment to open her first checking account, and get her first debit card. She stares at the endless bank forms, staying awake by bouncing in her seat in gleeful anticipation of what is to come: A form on which she signs her name with a smiling cat next to it, and then selects a Mickey Mouse debit card to mark her newfound maturity.

The employees at the bank are so delighted that they bring her a cupcake with a candle and the entire branch sings Happy Birthday to her.

She takes her very adult bank folder out to the car and tosses it in the back seat, buckling up quickly for what she knows is the next stop: the phone store. All the way over, she talks about what types of other phones there might be that she might want. It’s going to take a while to make the decision, but in the end, the only thing that takes a while is waiting for someone to get her new iPhone out of the back of the store and activate it.

She is thrilled, and even more thrilled when a debit card bearing her name – her name! – arrives in the mail a few days later.

She activates the card and disappears into her bedroom, coming out every so often to ask my opinion on things she is considering buying. A gadget that makes your shower water look like a rainbow seems like a good idea, briefly, but she loses interest even before I talk her out of it. She’s on Amazon, which seems safe enough, and she’s delighted just to know that she can buy something all by herself. Things seem to be under control: Mom not needed.

The next day, I drive her to school, and ask if she bought anything.

Oh yes, she says proudly, I bought some antiques on eBay.

This is not the answer I am expecting, so I inquire, what sort of antiques?

Oh, a lot of things, she says. I’m going to fix them and re-sell them for a lot of money.

I ask again: What sort of things?

She can’t remember exactly what.  There’s a chair, she says, but I shouldn’t worry because she was very careful and there was no shipping charge for the chair.

Great, I tell her, can I see what it is you bought on eBay?

She opens up her eBay app on her phone, and shows me: An “antique” chair in need of repairs, and a vintage accordion, listed as “for parts”, on which she’s used the Buy It Now option to lock in a $70 price.

I ask if she paid for any of this. No, she says.

I ask, did you enter your debit card number anywhere? No, she says.

Anywhere at all? I press a bit. Anywhere on the internet?

No, she says.

We have a talk about why this isn’t such a good idea: In the first place, she doesn’t really know how to fix antique accordions, I point out.

I can probably learn.

I’m sure you can, I tell her, but let me ask you: Do you know what parts you might need? What they might cost? Do you know what a working accordion of that type might sell for?

Oh, she says. She clearly can’t decide if I’m being serious or not, and truthfully, neither can I. I know there must be people who understand and can speak knowledgeably and seriously on the economics of the vintage accordion marketplace, but I am not one of them.

I tell her we need to cancel her eBay account and apologize to the sellers, but she can’t buy any accordions today or any other day. She’s not 18, so eBay is just out.

You didn’t give me any rules for internet shopping, she says. What do I do?

Neither of us is ready for this, so I make up a rule quickly: If you haven’t ever walked into their store in the mall, you have to ask me first.

She hesitates to agree to this, and it takes me a moment to realize why.

Unless it’s something for me, I tell her. In which case, you have to call grandpa first.

Okay, great! she says.

I briefly debate whether some punishment is warranted, but in the end, not having her very own for-parts accordion seems to be punishment enough.

Categories // All By Myself, Teen Tales Tags // single parenting

Road Trippin’: A Walk On The Beach

04.12.2013 by J. Doe // Leave a Comment

 

Haystack RockWe walk along the beach together, The Child and I. Her birthday is coming up and she’s full of ideas about the iPhone she wants.

But what she really wants is to turn sixteen and learn how to drive; she can’t wait to get her own car. At first she wanted my Mini, but now she thinks a SlugBug is a better choice for her. Fortunately, she has a few more years to deliberate over her choice.

She wants to take this car to college, she says. She’ll need a car there.

Well, maybe, I say. The Child has a Dutch citizenship through her father, The Foreigner, and the reason I have maintained that status all these years is this: Free college in the Netherlands for Dutch citizens. I point out to her that she may not be able to even take her car with her, depending where she goes to school.

I don’t think I want to go there, she says. I don’t really want to see my father.

I start to tell her, you don’t have to see him if you don’t want to. I want to tell her some of her other relatives there are quite nice, and Amsterdam is a cool city, and she can start her adult life without college debt, and the thousand other reasons I think this is a good idea. But none of those things matter when you’re 12, so instead I ask, why don’t you want to see him?

Do you remember when he used to call me on Skype? she asks. Every time we talked he asked me everything about myself.

This surprises me; conversations with him are usually more about listening to him.

She says: It was like I was talking to a stranger, and meeting him for the first time every time.

 

Categories // All By Myself Tags // Oregon Coast, single parenting

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