Being effective in a divorce arbitration proceeding is a bit like treating cancer effectively. One must recognize and accept that there is nothing fair about any of it: How it happened to you, who is to blame, and even the pain and loss associated with the remedies must all be treated as irrelevant if one hopes for an effective cure. After the treatment, don’t look back, look forward, thinking not about what you may have lost, but what you know you have gained.
Your future and your freedom.
You are wise beyond your years. Keep your head up. Make sure you grieve–here are your emotional phases: denial, anger, sadness, acceptance, freedom. Freedom from yourself. You will grow from this and you will be a better person.