I wandered through the match ads and found one with a photo of a man – slightly older, but nice looking, with what was clearly a Thoroughbred horse. It’s hard to look at all these men’s profiles and think of something to say on a subject that matters to me. I drink wine, sure, but I don’t converse about it – wine seems to be a big topic on match. I cook, and cook well, but so do lots of people – in fact nearly everyone, if match is any gauge. I don’t camp – at least, not willingly – and although I might go on a hike or bike ride from time to time, I’m not sure I’d want to make that my opening volley. I could end up with someone who would be sadly disappointed to discover that not only am I not outdoorsy in the least, but I prefer to spend my Saturday nights cracking jokes MST3K-style about vintage movies with a crew of twitter friends*.
Horses, though, I can talk about. One of the more redeeming aspects of my childhood is how unwholesome it was – my mom loved horseracing and I spent many a weekend at the track. I saw Seattle Slew win the Triple Crown and watched Affirmed nose out Alydar the following year. I had a crush on Steve Cauthen and asked the groomsmen to give him notes from me.
So I fired off a note to Mr. Horse Lover. And he replied the next day:
Thanks for the note. Too small of a world… I was at the Seattle Slew/Affirmed race as well. It’s a vivid memory for me. I lived up in Westchester at the time. Horses are a big part of my life especially during racing season of course. I see you’re from Kirkland at present – that about splits the difference from where I work and live. Your job must be interesting to say the least the last couple years being stock market related!Would love to get to know you more. Keep in touch!
I must be mis-reading. As with wine, I don’t consider myself to be expert about horses – but Seattle Slew did not race Affirmed at the Triple Crown. Different years. Different races.
Maybe his grammar just sucks, and he needs an editor. He meant to say “Those are vivid memories …” That must be it. I can do that. I edit people all day long. I used to return my dyslexic cousin’s letters to him with the spelling corrected.
So I reply, ignoring the error and making friendly inquiries about where he keeps his horses, where he races them, and the length of his commute which sounds … painfully long.
He replies:
hi you,
My horses live at the track when they are in training, but board up at a friends farm in Granite Falls when they are on vacation or still growing up.
My office is in Bellevue and I live up in Mill Creek, so commuting isn’t the best part of my life but I have a lot of flexibility in my schedule so thankfully I can often avoid the worst of it all!
Always enjoyed following the markets so I’m sure your job would still be interesting to me, although my savings and investing these days is mostly in the hands of my 401k people… for better or worse!
I hope you holiday is going well too!
xo
Hey you? xo? And I’m supposed to answer this … how? There is literally nothing in his bizarrely affectionate reply for me to respond to.
I spend two days trying to come up with a reply that doesn’t leave me feeling annoyed, and then decide that annoyed is perhaps not the best way to kick off a relationship of any sort.
Back to the search results. Too bad about the horses, though.
* aka, tweeple. There, I said it.
Ummmm…my guess is he doesn’t really have horses. They board with “friends” and then live at the race track? Then what the heck does he do with them? Yikes ~ match.com is a scary world!
Had no idea your Mom loved horse racing! My aunt and uncle were ecstatic about Seattle Slew ~ watched the races on TV from CT religiously, Manhattans or martinis in hand!
It never even occurred to me he might not really have horses! It makes perfect sense, though … many people on the internet (and especially on match) are pretending to be what they wish they were. And to think – I would have been glad just to meet someone and watch the races one day.