My friend is worried about me: We must have coffee. I haven’t seen her in too long, and it feels good. I’m sorry about Thanksgiving, I say. I needed some changes. I still do, and I still don’t know what they are.

She understands: I moved here a decade ago because I like the outdoors, but I’m never in it. Why? I’ve started going hiking every Monday. I’ve started dating again, too.

I cringe. I didn’t have a lot of luck on Match, I say. It wasn’t worth the money.

Just sign up on the free sites, she says. I’ve been on a lot of dates. Plenty of Fish and OKCupid. I’ve had two dates in the last month, one from each site. I went to a flamenco dance show with a guy who didn’t know what flamenco is.

Still, she says, I feel like there’s someone out there, now. You need to get out there, too. You need to get out.